How To Inspire Devotion Beyond The Sexual Experience.

Posted on April 24, 2012 by Kristi Langerak

Inside of the sexual relationship we can expand and grow. Most women do not have an understanding of how to move a relationship forward. Often the get stuck in the sexual experience and begin to feel they are loosing their power. One reason they feel they are loosing their power is that they have already played one their most powerful cards, that of sex. The difficulty is that this card was not paired with a deep understanding between the two people. At this point she may attempt to use sex as a manipulative pattern as her only means of control. She only does this because she has not learned any other way to deepen the relationship.

If you are in a relationship and it has stagnated in the sexual realm, there are steps that can be taken to open the relationship up to a more full experience.

  1. Become aware of your internal struggle.
    1. May feel like you are out of control.
    2. May feel manipulative.
    3. May feel pulsating like emotions moving in and out of your center. One moment feeling good the other feeling bad.
  2. Ground your emotional energy right now. You can do this by:
    1. Picking any stationary point around you and staring at it. Ex: Staring at the tip of your nose.
    2. This idea may seem silly, yet what it is doing is helping your brain stop obsessing by aligning the left and right hemispheres of the brain.
    3. Breath in deeply.
      1. The breath should coming in and out in an even cycle with the only stop occurring when you breathe out. This is called circular breathing.
      2. What we are doing here is stopping any form of over reaction and learning skills.
  3. Create a vision of what you want to move into in life. This is something you are passionate about and most likely something you have dreamt about in some way or the other for a long time. This is when you want to start dreaming again. The trick is that this vision is something YOU want with or without your partner. This is YOUR path to happily ever after, and you want to focus on how it will manifest in your life.
    1. Often we are initially attracted to someone because they share a common vision and dream in life. In the beginning we talk about that dream. What happens all too often in that the focus of the relationship in taken off the dream and put on all the little points of seemingly discontent. I say seemingly because these points only seem that way.  Interpretation is point of reference, so we want to move the focus from pinholes of discontent to the broader perspective of dreams and visions.
    2. As you do this, your energy begins to come back into your body and you stop giving your power away to another person and begin to feed your dream.
    3. People who have dreams are attractive. People who believe and move towards their dreams are magnetic.
  4. Help your partner feel safe.  People open to dreams, visions and questions. Questions, not interrogation. Interrogation is staring into the pinholes of discontent. Questions open the mind and heart.
    1. The question may arise as to why do YOU have to help THEM feel safe. Isn’t he the man? Shouldn’t he make me feel safe? When you feel safe with who you are and know your passions and dreams he will respond in kind. This is a form of nurturing. You are nurturing yourself and that feeling is going to go from you into him. Compare that to the other way in which your fear was going into him.
    2. Women are the dream keepers. Your aim is to empower yourself with clarity and then share this clarity in a way that inspires your partner to move forward.
  5. Start talking from possibility.  The hardest thing about this process is to let go of agenda.
    1. Agenda looks like this in your mind. “I’ll share my dream and if he doesn’t move towards it right away then I’ll dump him because then I will know he doesn’t care.” Or “I’ll promise him I will do what ever he wants sexually if he will make this dream come true.”
    2. When we listen and act from possibility we open to spirit and let spirit work through us. Those who have a similar dream will be drawn to it. This is how we source ourselves and create devotion.
    3. To aid your journey consider studying the language of feelings, needs and values or what is know as Non-violent Communication. This comes across in speaking in this form:
      1. “I feel so excited when you say that you like my dream because I would really like to create this dream with a partner. What do you think?”
      2. This form of communication is like Kung Fu speaking. It’s directing energy instead of fighting it. You are not giving away your power because you already feel in your heart that you can achieve the dream with or without this person, and you are not manipulating the other person, yet inspiring them. You are also offering choice in the matter and being clear on how you feel and what your needs are.

These five steps empower you by giving you a new focus. One of possibility and devotion, and will begin to move your relationship forward towards a shared dream. Through this process you will move out of feeling powerless and manipulative to being a woman in her feminine grace and power.

Kristi Langerak MS, RD

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Accepting Our Feminine Power

Posted on March 3, 2012 by Kristi Langerak

Thoughts on accepting our feminine power:

Ultimate femine

1) Why do we doubt our famine power? Could it be that we have been brought up in a world that has taught us masculine power and we as women feel lost, rightfully so, and a little awkward using the masculine power of concur, action and do?

2) What if we learned the feminine way of power? What would that look like? Some fear that it may take the shape of women’s lib, yet could it be that women’s lib looked that way because it was balancing out the masculine power and had to, only because it knew no other way, use that same masculine power to break through to a new way of being?

3) Could it be that now that the dust has settled and we are on the other side of that big pendulum swing we are left in the dust and wondering who are we?

4) Yet spirit is strong and ancient knowing always emerges to guide our souls…if we listen.

5) Could it be that the feminine power is internal power of being, knowing, understanding and connecting?

6) and could it be that accepting our feminine power is accepting the soft side of ourselves, sinking into our hearts creating and being in community and lifting others up so that they may see their greatness?

7) What is the fear of this feminine power? That we will over power someone? That we well be walked upon? That we will not be recognized for our contributions? Is this not another face of masculine power?

8 ) Could it be that masculine power is perfect and admirable for the masculine principle, yet for the feminine it leaves us longing?

9) To this I say: I am lovable as a woman in my power because being in my power allows me to fully love. Being in my power allows me to fully nourish, care for and create with those around me, not to divide and concur, yet to uplift, inspire and preserve.

10) Could it be that as I acknowledge this definition of feminine power that I can accept my feminine power as good for all? I believe so, and if that is feminine power then that is is how I want to feel.

Kristi Langerak

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How to Play with Fear so You can Feel Sexy

Posted on January 25, 2012 by Kristi Langerak

How to Play With Fear so You can Feel Sexy

One thing that comes up for a lot of women of all walks of life is their poor sense of self-esteem and confidence. The primary emotion is fear and fear keeps us contained and playing small. Feeling sexy is all about exposing who you are at a fundamental level of acceptance and a desire to radiate those good feelings into life. Acceptance does mean being complacent. Complacency often is turned into phrases like, “they should just accept me as I am.” It’s the “should” part that is complacent and it will keep you feeling just as you are right now. Yet the reason you are reading this is because you want to feel better about yourself and you have an internal desire to bring out the vibrant woman that may be buried just under the surface.  The reason it is buried just under the surface is because of fear.

The fastest way to transform and create deep changes in behavior and self concept is through identification with emotions. Emotions? Those things we go in and out of all day long sometimes seemly out of our control. For me, learning to identify emotions was a new concept. Being trained as a scientist I operated mainly through logic and will power. I had to learn to move from my head to my heart. The heart emanates love and connection and that is the path to keeping your sexy on. So what is this thing about fear?

Fear, whether it shows up big as rage, invoking us to running away or fight or whether it is a little voice and sometime not even a voice, but a feeling deep inside us that causes us to stop action, fear keeps us from experiencing our vibrant sexy selves because it blocks love. Think of it this way:

Fear: Red Light: Stop: No

Love: Green Light: Go: Yes

By working with these two emotional states you can move yourself into and out of any other emotion that you are experiencing. Master this game and your spirit will sore.

Playing the game of life “without” fear means that you are “not” going to let fear stop you from loving your life. It does not mean that you are not going to have fear. Fear is a natural reaction to the unknown. The bigger you play the more unknown there is. Keeping yourself small does not get rid of fear. In fact you are actually wrapped in fear and should anything touch your boundary that seems foreign you will react. Playing big desensitizes you to these small boundary changes.

Playing big, although it invokes more fear is actually a game of moving into love. So when you play big by saying, “I want to change how I feel about my life.” What you are doing is moving into a state of self-love, and that love can dissolve the fear you may have about change. Fear can look like apprehension, “Oh, I don’t know if I can do that.” Fear can look like judgment, “If I look and feel good what will people think?” As you go through your day, see if you can identify how fear is showing up and keeping you from expanding into love.

To move forward we want to develop focus. Focus is like a lazar light. When we say “no” to something fear will come up. What is needed is a plan of how to play with fear. Your relationship to fear is paramount and the ability to play creates the bridge from the world of fear into the world of love.

Let me know how fear is showing up in your life and how play can change that into love. This one step will help you keep your sexy on more then anything else I know.

In Loving Light,

Kristi Langerak

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Five Elements of Keeping Your Sexy On

Posted on January 18, 2012 by Kristi Langerak

Five Elements of Keeping Your Sexy On:

Ever wonder how to begin connecting to that vibrant sexy self? Here are five elements that will not only help you get your sexy back, they will help you keep it on.

1)    Displaying a positive attitude: When you display a positive attitude your whole body changes and people interact with you in a fun playful way. Positive attitude is catchy and attractive, so everyday find ways to keep yourself plugged into a positive source that helps feed you mind with creative ways to think and feel. I look on the Internet and constantly take courses, read books and attend activities that inspire me to be my best. The more you practice this exercise that more your external world will reflect back to you in kind and this reinforces the sexy playful part of yourself.

 

2)    Maintain a direct connection to your spirit at all times: “At all times?” you may ask, “how is that possible”? To do this tune into your body and start to feel the energy that is radiating from your heart. Let the warm energy fill your chest and radiate outward towards your arms, throat and stomach. Then tune into the energy that is radiating throughout your whole body, feel it expand a few inches away from you skin. This is your spiritual energy. Each time you practice tuning into your spirit your awareness will grow. This is vibrant energy can be expanded through prayer and kept alive through walks in nature and admiring the beauty that is around you. Any time your admire something your spirit gets charged and stays vibrant.

 

3)    Allowing the body to feel vibrant, alive and sexy. Too often we are taught not to feel good about our body and definitely not to think of it as sexy. Yet we are sexual beings and when we accept our body as perfect and beautiful just as it is, then and only then can we begin to make adjustments in our lifestyle that will bring about a healthy fit body that is perfect for who we are as individuals. It starts by actually allowing your self to feel vibrant, alive and sexy.

 

4)    What goes around comes around. Hang with positive people who are up to things in life. This will motivate and move you towards your dreams and aspirations faster then anything. Have you noticed how positive successful people have a certain sex-appeal to them? Do you find it attractive? If you don’t find it attractive then go back and work on step one, and use the key that will open a door and propel you into your sex-appeal that key is admiration. Admire those that have what you want and it will become you. That’s why we hang with positive people.

 

5)    Expand into the world at large: For most people their world is closed down with daily demands of life. Far too often no new thoughts enter the mind to stimulate it and give it vision. To really tap into your sexiness you want to start looking for evidence that it is okay to feel and look good without judgment. Rarely does our immediate environment provide that for us which is why most people give up. Expanding into the world at large by looking for evidence that there are a lot of sexy people in the world and it is okay, will build your confidence. One of the ways I do this is to study dating websites and forums. Find and follow the positive ones that teach how to interact with other people by keeping a positive vibe. This practice may even encourage you to start dating yourself as a way of adding new experiences into your life.

 

Your challenge this week is to take on these five elements as a daily practice. Print them out and read them over several times and do the work. After you do this come back and comment on your results.

 

Keep Your Sexy On.

Kristi

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Preparing your lungs for the triathlon swim

Posted on August 21, 2011 by Kristi Langerak

Help me I can’t breath.

Preparing your lungs for the swim event.

This is the second year I am participating in the Pacific Grove Triathlon. This year is different because now I know what to expect. Since I live right here and go to the beach a lot, one of the biggest things I see is people coming out to practice the swim part of the event late in the training seasons. Last year I was amazed that there where people who waited until the week before the event to train in the water. Not smart. Why:

  1. The pacific ocean water is cold and very few people, unless they train know how to prepare their body for this extreme temperature change. Why waiting to get into the water not a good idea?
    1. The dramatic change in temperature can be a shock on the heart. Best practice is to ease your way into the water for about one minute while splashing water on your face, and letting it get into your wetsuit. This helps the heart to adjust to the temperature change.
    2. While living in the mountains of Colorado and swimming in icy water without a wet suit, we where always taught to splash water under our armpits to keep the heart from going in shock. Yes, your arm pits.
  2. When swimming in the cold water of the Pacific Ocean your lungs need time to adjust to the deep breathing you will be doing. I will be honest, my lungs hurt after training, especially when we train hard and go for the full .9 miles. Why be mean to your lungs? Help them out by doing as many pre-event swims as possible.
  3. This brings me to the act of breathing itself. When the cold water hits your chest, especially if you have not warmed up, the lungs tighten up and breathing can be difficult. If you can’t be around the cold ocean water, prepare yourself another way such as a cold lake. Swimming pools are not cold enough to prepare your lungs for the initial shock and this initial shock can turn into panic attacks while in the water.
  4. This is not to scare you. It is to impress upon you the need to prepare for the cold water. When your body hits that cold water and your lungs contract instead of expand, your body is not going to get that extra oxygen it needs to move you towards that finish line, that last thing you want to experience is difficulty breathing which can lead to anxiety and hyperventilation.

So be sure to get a lot of practice in the cold water prior to the event. Your body, especially your lungs will pay you back many fold in extra energy, oxygen and ease.

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Secrets to Staying Young

Posted on July 25, 2011 by Kristi Langerak

In the quest of uncovering up-to-date information on anti-aging I came across this article. These are such good suggestions that over the next few weeks we will further expand each topic. For now read on to see what is ahead. Be sure to leave comments at the end so they can be addressed as the weeks go by.

Kristi

Finding the Fountain of Youth
Scientists in search of the Fountain of Youth share their findings. You can try these tricks today.

“With aging, we’ve always studied things that decline,” says Changiz Geula, PhD, research professor of neurology at the Cognitive Neurology and Alzheimer’s Disease Center at Northwestern’s Feinberg School of Medicine. But now she and other experts are looking instead to unlock the secrets of the “superaged,” those lucky individuals who seem to stay vital well into their 80s and beyond. Here’s some of their latest research, with advice on how you can add years to your life.

1) Stop eating so much

In Okinawa, Japan—home to some of the world’s oldest people—centenarians stop eating when they’re 80 percent full, says The Blue Zones author Dan Buettner, who studies longevity all over the planet.

They’re onto something: Scientists at St. Louis University found that, while both exercising and eating less led to weight loss in the study’s volunteers, cutting calories also lowered production of T3, a thyroid hormone that slows metabolism. The researchers believe that lower T3 levels may also slow the aging process.

2) Make love

Women who enjoy sex live longer, says Mehmet Oz, MD, professor and vice chairman of surgery at New York Presbyterian–Columbia University and co-author of YOU: Being Beautiful. In fact, doubling your amount of satisfying sex can add up to three years to your life, he says. “Sex gives you the Zen moment you can’t find throughout the day otherwise.”

3) Use your brain

Dr. Geula, who has studied 80-year-olds who perform at the same level as people in their 50s on neuro­psychological tests, has found that the superaged have fewer brain tangles—deposits of protein linked to Alzheimer’s—suggesting that their brains have some sort of protection that normal brains don’t. While scientists puzzle this out, there’s a lot you can do to keep your own synapses firing. Learn Italian, take up the cello—even driving a new route to work can wake up sleepy brain cells.

4) Pour yourself some merlot

You’ve probably heard a lot about resveratrol, a compound in red wine and grape juice that seems to slow aging. One recent study found that resveratrol-fed mice had stronger bones and better motor coordination, and showed fewer “old age” problems like heart disease, inflammation, and cataracts. The jury is still out on whether resveratrol has the same effect on humans, but nutritionists say drinking red wine in moderation does have heart-healthy benefits.

5) Lose the muffin top

In one large study published last year, researchers who tracked 6,583 people for more than 30 years found that having significant belly fat in midlife can nearly triple your risk of dementia.

6) Eat more plants

In his study of centenarians, Buettner found the longest-living people tend to eat less meat and more beans, soy, and nuts.

What are your questions? Please post below.

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How Anti-Aging Antioxidents Can Keep You Vibrant.

Posted on May 24, 2011 by Kristi Langerak

Enhancing our natural ability to stay vibrant and young looking is aided by antioxidants. I am so glad that I took care of myself when I was younger by eating fruits and vegetables. We all grow older and after 40 it shows up faster. There is a secret to youthful appearance and entails antioxidants. I mean face it, our body is largely fat and without antioxidants that fat is going to go rancid. Here is a great article I found about how Anti-Aging Antioxidents Can Keep You Vibrant.

Put Anti-Aging Antioxidants To Work For You

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Our parents have been telling us to eat fruits and vegetables for years. In fact, if you have kids, you may have even said that to them yourself. One of the biggest reasons to eat fruits and vegetables is to obtain antioxidants, which keep our bodies healthy.

To understand antioxidants, you first need to know about free radicals. Free radicals are, basically, substances within the body that destroy the body’s cells. They impede DNA replication as well. That means that, if left unchecked, they can cause illnesses, like cancer, as well as skin problems.

Antioxidants are like the white knights riding to your body’s rescue. They are proteins that fight free radicals. Antioxidants help to keep your body looking and feeling young and healthy. However, that’s only true if you get enough of them.

Getting Enough Antioxidants

There are a few ways to get antioxidants. Modern ways include taking supplement pills or even using skin creams that contain antioxidants. In fact, there’s a fairly new skin cream component called resveratrol, which is very high in antioxidant content. It’s said to be a great wrinkle reducer.

However, all that aside, the best way to get antioxidants is to simply eat them. Many of the antioxidants found in such creams can also be found in foods. Peanuts and blueberries, for example, are high in antioxidants.

But What If I’m “Anti-Vegetables”?

If you’re not a big fan of eating fruits and vegetables, you aren’t alone. You really should try to get plenty of them in your daily diet. However, you do have other food-based alternatives. Such “anti-vegetables” can be just as high in antioxidants.

For example, grapes are very high in antioxidants. In fact, the skin of grapes can be especially good for you. That doesn’t mean that you have to eat grapes necessarily, though. Instead, you might choose to simply have a glass of wine with your evening meal. Wine is, after all, made from grapes or other antioxidant-rich fruits.

Compensating For Stress

One thing that you need to understand is that your body is under a lot of stress each day. The physical stress on your cells can take a toll. In fact, thousands of factors can influence your health each day, right down to your cells. So, it’s very important to give your body a steady supply of the antioxidants, vitamins and nutrients that it needs.

Studies indicate that women who take in high amounts of antioxidants are at lower risks of heart attacks. In fact, an American Heart Association study found a 33% lower risk. The risk of strokes was also lowered by 71%. While that was only one study, the benefits of antioxidants are clear, especially when it comes to antioxidants slowing down the aging process.

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Now it’s your turn. Tell me how you are getting antioxidants into your diet every day.

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Get your sexy on

Posted on May 5, 2011 by Kristi Langerak

The thing about it is this…people are sexy. Just go out in a crowed and think about finding sexy people and see what happens.  If you were to get your sexy on, what would it feel like? What would it look like? This is not pornograghy, it’s real people feeling good about themselves. Let me know below….

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Do we sell ourselves short?

Posted on March 23, 2011 by Kristi Langerak

I can’t help but wounder how often we sell ourselves short of the glory of achieving our dreams. I mean how often have you really wanted something inside and gave up obtaining it with few attempts to go for it?

As I move forward in my efforts to create my vibrant body I am faced with everything that is not the ideal picture I created in my head about how things would progress. First off, making a change, any kind of change can be difficult and that is what I found.

I’ve really had to focus all of my attention on putting together a fitness routine and there are so many other things that pull at my attention. Like getting out there and dating. OK, so I tell myself one of the reasons I am getting in shape is so I can get out there and feel confident in myself, yet still part of me has doubt.

It’s about focus and passion and desire to really obtain the object or goals that we dream of in our alone time that motives us to move forward.

Never sell yourself short by one moment believing that you are not worthy or that you can’t have what you want. I find that those kind of conversations constantly come up in my head. Like today when I was telling myself I wasn’t good enough to be a manager or a business owner. Luckily I stopped myself right there and said, “stop, that is an untrue statement.” I had to do that five times today or I would have given up and sold myself short on my dreams and full potential.

Where do you find you sell yourself short?

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Aging for dummies

Posted on March 16, 2011 by Kristi Langerak
Jennifer asked me why am I doing this body building stuff, to which I replied, “I want to feel good as I go through the rest of my life.”
Create your vibrant body

Beginning the Isabody challenge

She said, “You look good, what are you talking about?”

“Yeah, looking good and feeling vibrant are two different things.”

What most people don’t realize is that as they age they are living off of their muscles or lack there of…If I build up my muscles and make my body strong I’m going to feel better for the rest of my life.

According to Brent Agin, Sharon Perkins, RN who wrote Healthy Aging for Dummies:

“As people age, their skeletal muscle mass starts to deteriorate. Your skeletal muscles (also known as lean muscle) are the muscles that attach to your bones and are under voluntary control.

As a result of deterioration, people begin to look, well, flabby as they get older. You may see these changes start as early as your 30s, but most people see the biggest changes between their 40s and 50s.

A recent study concluded that total muscle mass decreases by nearly 50 percent for people between the ages of 20 and 90. On average, people lose about 30 percent of their strength between ages 50 and 70, and another 30 percent of what’s left per decade after that. Generally, people lose about 1 percent of their lean muscle mass per year after age 40.”

The question is, “what if…” What if making simple changes in lifestyle really will make life easier in the long run? My grandfather believed it, and so do I.

Look at at these books to learn more.

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